Jesus knows the heart of a man. He looks past what the natural eye sees and sees into the inner depth of who we are. Jesus doesn’t see color, or wealth. He doesn’t see the fancy clothes we wear or the airs that we try and put on to make ourselves feel important. He sees past all of that and sees the very thing that makes us who we are and He is calling each one of us to embrace that reality and walk the road that we are called to walk.
In order to walk that road, we must learn to love ourselves. If you find your love for yourself in the value and worth of what others say about you, then you will forever fail to truly love You. Why? Because in man’s eyes you will never be good enough. You will never measure up to the expectations that man will place on you. You will never love yourself if the standard that you use is man’s measurements and not God’s.
Recently I got into a heated debate with a person that came up and verbal confronted me for a wrong that she thought that I had done. As I sat there, I could feel my anger raising and after she walked away all I could do was ask myself “who does she think she is speaking to me like that?” And with that question, I stood up to defend myself and with my response I escalated an already bad situation. I knew that I had totally lost my control and had given myself over to anger but I felt helpless to stop myself. Did my anger make me feel better? No. It made a bad situation worse and created no winners.
I needed to understand why what someone else said and thought about me caused me to lose total control of myself. As I sat there, ashamed of my behavior but desperate for answers, the Lord showed me how for so many years I had allowed my self-worth to be measured by what people thought about me. The words that were spoke that day, were what I called my “last straw.” You see for more years than I can count, I had allowed others to determine my worth. I wanted to find acceptance in man even if it was at the expense of who I was.
I remember going to an outing with a group of ladies, just excited to be a part of their group, only to learn later that one of the people in the group made the comment that “they had to put up with me all day.” Those nine words caused me to question every word and action that I had that day. Instead of being thankful for knowing how that person felt about me, I internalized those words and found fault within myself. It was yet again another example of where if I was myself, someone was not going to like me. So you learn to be who others want you to be. You watch what you say and do. You put your guard up and learn to live with it up. But the only problem with that life is one day you will reach the point where you are tired of living with a permanent guard. I had reached that day.
Loving yourself is the first step in loving others. But the only way to learn to love yourself is to understand why you don’t see yourself as God sees you. I knew what my journey would involve, I needed to go to the root of my problem and give it to Jesus. The only way to “fix” me was to go to the one that created me and ask Him to show me what happened. It might sound crazy to ask “God” for an answer, but if you do He will always answer you.
“Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock,
and it shall be opened unto you” Matt 7:7
Do you struggle with loving yourself? Do you allow what others think about you to carry more weight than what God say’s about you? Does the rejection of man, cause you to question who you are? If you can relate to any of these questions, then I ask you “Do you truly love yourself?”
Are you ready to love yourself as God loves you? The true color of love is Jesus. He know everything about you and yet He still love you. He loves you unconditional. That does not mean He likes the sin that you commit, it means that He love you enough to look past that sin and see your heart. After I totally lost my anger, I struggled to forgive myself. I knew that my actions did not reflect the love of Jesus that was inside of me. I was anger at myself for not being “Jesus with skin on”. As I struggled with this, the Lord showed me that He sees the inside. He sees our heart and when we go to Him and ask for forgiveness, He gives it unconditional. I ask Him to truly forgive me and I know that He did.
TRUE LOVE WANTS YOU TO BE WHAT GOD CREATED YOU TO BE,
NOT WHO YOU HAVE ALLOWED YOURSELF TO BECOME.
That statement needed to be bold because it can be so easy for us to fall into the lie of the devil that says “God doesn’t mind if you sin or live contrary to His word.” God loves us so much that He will bring us out of our sin and into the life that He ordained for us. My words of anger gave God no glory and my action only served to further the devils plan to “kill, steal and destroy.” I did apologize for what I said that day, to the person involved and to God, and I am forgiven, but I can never go back and undo what was done. Flesh won that day, but God allowed my eyes to be opened to my sin and He shined revelation on it.
The walls that we put up, due to past hurts and wounds, can become a prison if we are not careful. God never created us to deny who we are.
“I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.” Psalm 139:14 ESV
God created us to be who He wants us to be. He has a plan for each one of our lives, but it we allow pain, criticism from others, harsh words, etc to mold and shape us then we will never live up to who we are met to be. Today is the day that the walls can come down. Let go of those things that have stood in the way of you being who God has called you to be. Go to Him and ask Him to help you, strengthen you, restore you and teach you to love yourself. The real you, not the one that man wants you to be.
Scriptures to see yourself as God sees you:
“for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” Psalm 139:14
“The Lord your God is in your midst, … He will exalt over you with loud singing.” Zephaniah 3:17
“And to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.” Ephesians 4:24
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, the new has come.” 2 Cor. 5:17
If you want to walk in the light of who you are in God, the first step is to accept His Son Jesus. It is so simple, just ask Jesus to come into your heart. Through our repentance, His blood will wash away all of your sins.